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And aren't those the things that you really want? Check the Kind of Marriage Improvement You Want Which of the following kinds of improvement do you want in your marriage? Increased intimacy Enhanced communication More fun Better sex Less conflict What if you could have some or all of these things with your spouse? What would it be worth to you? Don't give up on improving your marriage! There's still hope for you.

And once you get started it feeds upon itself! As you repeat making your deposits with your partner, you condition yourself and you condition the relationship itself.

Isn't This the Kind of Marriage You'd Want? Lee and I think of our relationship as if we had two bank accounts in a relationship bank .

Afraid - How can I handle this financially? I've read that an average divorce in the U.S.

Worried - How will the kids be affected if we divorce? Lonely - How will I find someone else? I don't want to deal with the dating scene again.

How to Begin Upgrading Your Marriage Today? As an experienced counselor, I can tell you what to do to maximize your chances of success.

It doesn't have to happen to you! Thank you for the excellent book.

I downloaded your book today and have already read half of it.

Every time one of us does something nice for the other, it's like making a goodwill deposit in that person's bank account.

I can also help you avoid actions that will only waste your time and....

Using this method, when you've built up large positive reserves of goodwill with each other, your relationship is in good shape.

We have a goal of maintaining a positive balance with each other on a daily basis.

I got it about a week ago and I've already read most of it twice.

I also love the romantic suggestions.

November 2004 (Later, the same person wrote me the following email.) Just a small note to tell you that I am back with my beautiful wife, working on our fantastic future.Anyway, our lives are back on track and I am the luckiest person alive.

Emotional intimacy is enhanced, mutual respect is increased, and sex becomes better.

With the kindest regards and thanks.

Unfortunately, this experience is all too common.

Thank you for your help and I'm so grateful that I found your book.

Every single day, we want to make bigger deposits than withdrawals with each other.

Read on.

In the top 21 Marriage Busters, I am guilty of 12 of them.

But building up large goodwill reserves with each other feels so good that it's addictive.

I am really beginning to learn more about myself and why I do the things I do and especially what things I should not do that put up barriers between my husband and I.

I think that your book is spot on but wish I had read it some time ago (with my wife).

But if a person does something irritating to the partner, it's like making a goodwill withdrawal from their account.

One of my clients who went through divorce told me I'd much rather have 10 root canals done on me that to go through that again.

-Married for 6 Years, New Jersey If You Were Given One Wish.

By making sure our accounts with each other are never overdrawn, we keep our marriage healthy.

And as you apply this and my other recommendations, you'll find that you are bonding more to your partner.

-Married for 12 Years, Australia February 2005 Wouldn't You Like to Know.

What Lee and I get from this system is we feel motivated to put frequent deposits into our account with the other person.

You find your marriage spiraling upward to heights you never imagined.

Deposits can be strokes of affection, a gesture of respect, an acknowlegement for something the other has done, or some kind of compliment to the other person.

Yes, it takes some effort to establish the habit of making goodwill deposits on a daily basis.

He has an account with me, and I have an account with him.

That way, when you need to ask for extra understanding or patience from your spouse, you have enough goodwill accumulated in your account to cover the request.

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